So, apparently you can’t have a Tumblr without constantly getting people reblogging SJW stuff about rape in your feed. The thing that bugs me, that I’d like to talk about, is how rape seems to get treated as a collective male responsibility, like how Jews were all blamed for killing Jesus.
Rape is not like scratching your balls - it’s not something all men are inclined to do unless they’re trained not to do it. If you look at the statistics (the US Navy did a really good study on it, but all credible studies seem to agree) only a small fraction of men commit rape, and they do it over and over. This is the same small fraction that commits most crime in general. They’re called psychopaths and they don’t see other people as deserving of their consideration because something is messed up in how they’re wired. You can’t teach these people that women are people and they need to be treated with respect - they don’t respect anyone besides themselves. That’s their whole schtick. Talking to your son about consent is a good idea and all but he’s not going to become a rapist because he wasn’t lectured long enough about rape being bad. He’s either entirely lacking in empathy or he’s not. Talking to your daughter about safety is way more productive in terms of rape prevention, because there are always going to be people out there who are glib, charismatic, and unable to see other people as anything but objects to be manipulated.
Who else is responsible for preventing rape? Well, first, it’s the victims themselves. They have to accuse their rapists if they’re going to be kept from doing it again. This happens a depressingly slim fraction of the time, because many women seem to care more about their own emotional comfort than justice being served and the other women their attacker will harm before he’s caught. They’re the ones with the strongest power to get rapists put in prison and they often refuse to exercise it. Maybe instead of ‘society teaching men not to rape’ they’d be better served by teaching women the gravity and importance of reporting rapists?
Who else is responsible for dealing with rapists? Well, there’s the people who take the reports, the police, who are the main discouragement to reports being made, because they’re so incredibly awful to deal with. And then there’s prosecutors, judges, and the rest of the justice system, which probably causes far more rape than it prevents by operating prisons the way they do. They’ve got harsh mandatory minimum sentencing for drug offenders but IIRC the average sentence for a convicted rapist in my state is eighteen months, with an astronomical rate of recidivism. The justice system manages to do astonishingly little to keep rapists out of polite society while at the same time operating an institution where rape is ubiquitous and unpunished.
What does the average non-psychopath private male citizen have to do with any of this? Nothing at all. Most of us would jump at the chance to expose ourselves to physical danger to stop a rape, even. But Tumblr SJWs seem to want to pin rape on fantasies like ‘the patriarchy,’ ‘male privilege’ and ‘rape culture’ when it’s actually victims and the justice system who have the power to do something about rape and are most delinquent in their responsibilities. Don’t tell me it’s not okay to make a joke about rape but it’s okay to not report your attacker if you’ve been raped. Don’t blame the entire male sex for rape when the justice system is just a big revolving door for the few deranged individuals the whole system supposedly exists to keep away from us.
It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.
But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.
Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.
oh OUCH this is me(via pervocracy)